Tuesday, September 14, 2010 9:25 pm
Hm... Was listening to Jordin Sparks' "Battlefield"... And somehow... The phrase "Get your armour" got me... Cause... In the battle of love... Isn't the point of the battle is to walk on without all those armour...?
If you keep piling armour on yourself because you are so afraid of being attacked and hurt, then what's the whole point of the relationship? Isn't a relationship suppose to be about being open and honest to the other person? Isn't a relationship supposed to be about peeling away your guards and just being you around the other person? After all, if you keep yourself so guarded against everyone else, shouldn't the person you want to be with be treated differently than the average stranger?
Sadly... I do agree that love is a constant battlefield... And people keep retreating back to their baseline to grab armours without realising the solution to the end of the war is to walk onto that battlefield without any armours at all... Yes, you will be hurt, you will be attacked, you will even be beaten down and trod on.
But unless you take off that armour, all you be doing is hiding yourself and not being yourself around the other person... And should that happens, isn't it better to just end the whole relationship...? Feelings fade, but you also can choose to keep those feelings or let it go. And if the relationship isn't working out, it's for the best for both parties if everything came to an end before it literally self-destruct in their faces. And should that happen... Even friendship is near impossible... Because if it self-destruct, it will always hurt to even look at the other person. Like a wound that would keep re-opening...
Sure, everyone wants to believe in fairytale endings... But in reality, no such endings exist... If they do, it's a rather superficial one... Because no one is identical. Not in thought, not in personality. And that's why, it will take more than one lifetime to truly understand another person... But one can be open-minded and compromise with the other party... Especially if you feel he/she is worth it.
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Talking about compromising, I was reading about Sumiko Tan's article a few days ago about her marriage life. Compromise ain't compromise if you keep backing out of it. Sure, it will make one party feel uncomfortable, but the human body adapts, even if your stubborn mind refuse to. Give it time, and you can even live in the Arctic if you wish.
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